What stands out for me is HOPE! i love your article and i wish that i was that far ahead; we are given just one year of dbt then we get on with it alone; there may be a graduate group but it will only be every month or two for a few hours and no therapy; my dbt ended about a month ago and far from moving on i am regressing and i feel that i have never done it at all; i would so like to be able to see things as you do but it looks very unlikely that i ever will; i would say give thanks every day for what you have been given and spare a thought and maybe a prayer for those of us who are still in the pits and stuggling; one year is just not enough to make the skills part of ones life. It's kind of just an awesome miracle that I've come as far as I have. I truly love her, but this is getting old real fast. After a few hours he will then realize the hurt he caused me and then he'd apologize. Unfortunately, a few years later, the societal stigma against mental illness reared its ugly head. Arlington, VA 22203, NAMI Required Disclosures For Written Solicitations. Try to deny it. I am going to send him this link and I hope he reads it and it helps him to understand that I'm not a monster but instead struggling with a disorder. Hay Debbie, I can relate to so much of this. I have been reading many different sites and randomly came to your blog tonight. After experiencing a lack of support at work, Beth became a champion for workplace mental health. At this point, "there is no escape" from my mind. People just don't "believe" in it and long-term mental illnesses. You are not the cause of our suffering. This was very well thought out and appreciated. I'd use this (edit it of course) if I was getting the help I need. I just love this letter. Thanks for your beautiful letter it reminds me that she can't help it and we were close for 32 years so close. I find it so hard to put into words my struggles but you have done it perfectly. I love you, baby. She is also using emotional blackmail, saying if I divorce her it would kill her. It indicates the ability to send an email. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Debbie, Hi Kat thank you so much for sharing. I am scared that I am destroying my children, whom I love so very much. All other programs and services are trademarks of their respective owners. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. I need frequent reminders of this, because if I dont it feels like I will lose faith in humanity completely, and that will shatter every belief I have ever held dear. Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. I myself work in the mental health field and see her mental health declining. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. It is very well written and to the point. I wish more people could understand what it's like, but you're right- we don't know what it's like for them to see us this way either. And I know it's because I still have so much to learn. Thank you so much for your openess, dedication and help. Just a thought. Note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our websites and the services we are able to offer. Ive read that DBT could be the answer to her unpredictable behaviour and fears, the problem is that we were stuck in a step before. By sharing your experience, you can let others know that they are not alone. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. BPD is what happens when we get sucked under the waves and can't breathe. Originally, I had intended for those without it to read and hopefully gain just a grain of understanding. People with BPD have various triggers that can set their symptoms in motion. This is my second year . 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. I have to also find a doctor. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle to understand how wives, husbands, friends, and other family members experience their intense reactions, mood swings, and risky behavior. BPD expert and author, Randi Kreger, likens it to "having 'aural dyslexia,' in which they hear words and sentences backwards, inside out, sideways, and devoid of context.". It can be hard to witness someone's pain, and one of the pitfalls for therapists is to lose faith in the person going through the therapy, particularly when building up one's own DBT skills. Needing Constant Reassurance or Validation "I ask for reassurance because I worry I'm miscommunicating or misinterpreting someone. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! That evening I spoke to a LCSW who was able to confirm that all her actions (plus a prior divorce, SI, estrangement from her children, abusive father and ex-boyfriends, etc.) Don't let people (in my case a doctor) tell you that you will always be like this, that there is no way out. My dad likely has BPD too because my mother lived through 30 years of marriage with this. Mick Finnegan, a 37-year-old Dubliner diagnosed with BPD, also believes the condition was rooted in his childhood. Love, Andrea, You are so welcome, Heather. Be somewhere. The most ironic thing is: I went to school to be a counselor. But she arrived the next day with a police office to remove, most, but not all of her remaining stuff. My mother talks to her and says she doesn't even sound like the person we used to know. It's like you're a baby learning everything all over again. I believe we could work at our enmeshment together and make this work. I wish you all the best. Using this website means you're okay with this. I have friends with mental illnesses who are therapists, and I've even had a therapist who struggled with an eating disorder. You juggled everything with such grace, intelligence and humility even as your husband found it harder to keep being the man you knew. 4301 Wilson Blvd., Suite 300 Why? Have a great evening. Now go for it!! Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a significant mental health disorder that is so disruptive it was once thought untreatable. Debbie, Hi Beauty thank you very much for your kind feedback. This letter might help on the explaining part, but the latter? Early on in our diagnosis and before really digging in deep with DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), we dont have the proper tools to tell you this or ask for your support in healthy ways. I was left out of the loop as to her condition and was very depressed. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? I am so sorry that you were treated badly becuase of your diagnosis. The struggle of those with BPD relationally, is rooted in a proverbial no-win situation. Thank you for taking the time to leave this kind comment, and more importantly, for the wonderful work you are doing to help hurting people. Debbie. Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. It can often produce stereotyping and be frightening and misleading. she now cant be with me because what will people think if we are seen together? An curved arrow pointing right. If I continue living how I am, I doubt I'll see the age my mother saw54. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. I thank higher powers for not leaving life. They have similar symptoms, but I don't believe they can be classified the same. This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). BPD is characterized by rapidly fluctuating moods, an unstable sense of self, impulsiveness, and a lot of fear. Listening to your loved one and acknowledging their feelings is one of the best ways to help someone with BPD calm down. I have been inspired by people here and I want to share my experiences with everyone as well! But for what it's worth you're brave for writing this letter, and i hope for the people who are genuinely affected by this condition, they are heard supported and loved as they definitely don't need anymore shit. Whenever that happens it takes her many days to recover, during which periods she will vacillate between seeming to be okay, and seething, and saying things like "I don't trust you. An open letter to the children of a BPD parent should simply say, "I am so very sorry for hurting you. This is an example of how manipulative people with BPD can be. This letter really hits hard. Sometimes we take a preemptive strike by disowning people before they can reject or abandon us. BPD symptoms can include complex and unhealthy thought processes, anxiety, poor self-image, and dramatic mood swings. Wow does this roller coaster ever end??? I have no goals. While she was packing one day I played some Mavericks, southwestern country music I thought she would enjoy because that's where she is from. Most of my family doesnt believe in my diagnosis, and any friend I ever made has left because of the brief periods of time when I couldnt control my emotions. I was diagnosed with BPD.. Shrug. I do love him and I am asking the Lord to help me help him. Some individuals with BPD tend to push limits, engage in risky behaviors, or seek stimulation in ways that are unhealthy. I am wondering what to do to help her. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. It takes even more work when there She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. My voice of reason. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. What you have written here is one of the most accurate and personable depictions of BPD, it gives way to understanding and hope. Hi Sarah and John. Having BPD is no picnic, either. I buried and oppressed all my feelings and emotions inside because I was afraid of ruining the one thing I had that made me feel slightly better, our family you and the children. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. Love, Linda <3. A person with BPD can act in impulsive and often dangerous ways. . I know people with BPD who were never abused or traumatized, so they can't really say BPD is actually a type of PTSD/trauma-based disorder either. I just completed my first year, and everything wasn't as perfect as I hoped it would be. She attends a DBT Centre twice a week. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? This is the hardest thing of all for me to overcome. Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. I put my family through hell for years. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. In the interest of our child, I have put him into therapy. Thanks again. I would never fall inlove and start a family. It was total and it was overwhelming and it could be cruel." Cassandra Clare. low self-esteem. She emailed me later saying that it was passive aggressive behavior and that she "gets it" I am the one who ended it. Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. I have the unique ability to "throw people off" my scent when they get close to calling me out on stuffThe only reason why I am here is because my oldest told me tonight that he knows that I am "unwell" and expressed himself honestly about those characteristics in my behavior that are destroying him emotionally to be fair, I am dealing with a lot of unnormal stuff, but am really unclear as to where it all ends and I begin I really have no idea, and I am miserable. Every single time you embrace my stable days when I'm the peachiest version of me you ever get to experience. There are ups and downs for everyone, mentally healthy or not. Thank you for your kind comment. Thank you so much for posting this. If you are an adult in a relationship with another adult, either through blood or through a romantic liaison, who fits the . I'm always fascinated and encouraged to see persons with BPD who accept the diagnosis and are embracing treatment. If you had told me 10 yrs ago I would be happily married and eventually become a mother I would have given you the finger and told you to shut the F up. A, The mind is very complex. She also has recently gotten more busy and a tighter finical situation. And it also made me aware of a lot of my behavior that i was never aware of and now i have a better understanding of some of the things i do and why. The sort of help I needed. People with BPD typically have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to observers. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. I love this person, but the situation can be so hurtful. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Smiles, Well here goes. I had alter egos and they were the fun ones but I was not me anymore. You have to find the tools that work for you personally. I was told that I have BPD, and I am in denial of my diagnosis. All we can do is pray at this point. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. People will tell you that whatever you did was your fault, and you will believe it, but they dont and cant understand how hard you fought to keep control. We may request cookies to be set on your device. I know someone with BPD and reading the blogs of people who have BPD and are writing their inner thoughts help me to understand what is going through the mind of someone who has BPD. I just wish more people were aware of how damaging the things they say really are to anyone with any kind of mental illness. The content of this website is not a substitute for independent professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. We're currently in the middle of another episode as I write this. This is coming from the mouth of the same guy who proposed to me last year. I have beeen through 3 years of DBT therapy and figuring out who i am and how i came to have this horrible disorder. I pray that she is able to find a place where you are now. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. This message is what he's been trying to tell me for the last two years and I've just never understood why he would stay with me when I have my BPD episodes, but this helps me understand. Any therapist helping a child of a borderline to recover will recommend that they protect themselves from the abuse and their abuser. The emotion can easily become unbearable, which is when the BPD takes control. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. I think that one if the distinct differences in the diagnosis is the willingness to show vulnerability. Again this is NOT your fault. If there is a problem with our website, please contact us here, 2023 Sanctuary Support Group | Designed by, Debbie Corso had BPD and has recovered. Appointments 866.588.2264. Ask questions. I want to know that honesty and loyalty exist. Would you mind if I reposted it on my blog (beautyandtheborderline.wordpress.com)? Sorry it had to take me so long to get it, but better late then never. We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. They have the ability to support the BPD. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. You can now share your poetry (or poetry you love) by using the hashtag #MightyPoets. I was so considerate and walked over again and again. If you are serious about hurting yourself, I need to ask you to please get medical attention right away. I hurt you again and my fear of abandonment means Im searching for a different outcome each time. Debbie, Hello NB thank you so much for your kind, insightful comment. Spot on insight!! As I read it I want to share it with my husband and daughter for starters but would love to share it to my DBT therapist and group.How do you feel about that? Thank you for being who you are. A normal life can be had. Proud of you for going back to work. I am grateful for this letter. I feel like when i want to say something my mouth just won't move. Juliette Virzi. This time she almost did it. In order to make this happen, I had to force my ex to go by order of the family doctor. Today I turned 47 and I feel like I am 77. I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. Aww *hugs* what an insightful post! It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. Then I was abandoned againwe all know about that. It is intense, exhausting, and rewarding! And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. When crises occur, family members can help achieve emotional stability by encouraging slow breathing to reduce pressure. This is how people in our BPD community explained these five classic BPD behaviors that are commonly mistaken for being "manipulative": 1. Perhaps he still loves me and he still wants to try (I think he's been having a breakdown anyway, due to his father being very ill and the chance he'll be homeless when his dad dies). She stopped answering my calls when I wanted to know if she would be home for dinner and made excuses to avoid me, staying out until 10 or 11 pm and leaving at 7am each morning. I'm so proud of him that he agreed very graciously to attend and learn these skills. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. I got my diagnosis when i was 18. Again tks for this:), You are very welcome. I was seeing these people through a program that is now over. If BDP people are triggered into the abyss of misery, then so are we. Maybe Debbie wants to add the Ducht version at her list of translations on her website? I know that my new wife and family would appreciate it as well. Simple as a grilled cheese sandwich. She has a 12 month lease but says she may come back sooner if go into rehab for her ( I am working on my issues with a therapist). I would have missed my little princess daughter, missed my husband, missed out on my "recovery". Please be aware that this might heavily reduce the functionality and appearance of our site. Hope can be returned. Thank you for taking the time to share your story. That can make you act erratically. Yes, it's good to have a job so that i'm out of the house and not laying in bed all day. Happy for you both. My late father could've been suffering from BPD without knowing it till the day he died, he was a dream dad at times and abusive at times. BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! Recovery happened through a commitment to DBT. Tonight tho as she is in the psych ward I feel as tho my world is crashing down around me. If you want a copy email me: dutch.christine@gmail.com. Thank you. 1300 554 660. As I read your open letter, I tried to imagine my daughter saying this to me.how very helpful! The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. I suffered massive trauma throughout my life but particularly when i was 16 years old. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. I am actually building up an identity, something that is ME. I tried to cheer her up and I thought we ended the evening on amiable terms. ", As an adult who is trying to work past the damage that was done growing up with a BPD mother reading the last part of your response made me cry. Life can be hard for all of us at times, and if you are struggling with the problems that face people with BPD then it can get really tough. People with BPD can experience severe mood swings,. People with BPD are also more inclined to exhibit impulsive behavior or . I wish you peace. It's only a matter of time before DBT is more readily available and accesible. This is very hard!! I mean, I know that makes me sound selfishand I am a lot more than I used to be. I pray every night for God to help meI would love some direction and support Thank You. please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior. An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, I am very glad to hear about the understanding you're experiencing within your family. People with BPD traits often have "object permanence" issues - "out of sight is out of mind". I work from home. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. It's bloody hard work to change your whole life and how you live it. Find out how you can be a NAMI HelpLine specialist. He is desperate I know. It can easily end up feeling hopeless and you feel helpless. Hi Debbie, I certainly appreciate your open letter. Yes I can see that that it is a long difficult road. All Rights Reserved. I know others requested to share it and I too would love to share it with a client, or perhaps imply put it up on the wall in my office =) Are you comfortable with it?I wish you skillful means. Debbie, Hi Andrea you are very welcome. Also, I am very grateful FOR my boyfriend and your article. You sound like a good and strong person with a huge heart. Hi there, I am now in my 2nd month of treatment for BPD, and ,sadly, had all nine of the symptoms. I had promised not to disturb her, but a few minutes later I realized I'd left the book I was reading in the bedroom, so I lightly tapped on the door. So hard sometimes. Hope can be returned. All in all today I am successfull in all that I set my mind on to do. 50 reviews of McLean Hospital "You know what? Once calm, the family can together have an open discussion and achieve setting small goals for the person with BPD. Showing your love and support will make them more willing to see your point of view and help them understand your desire for healthy boundaries. Its a cycle of negativity. I truly appreciate what you said. I asked myself, how can someone with four beautiful children and a stunning wife feel this way? And guess what? This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. I don't think it is heartless that you've chosen to put your family first and set boundaries that is healthy! Its smart for us to stay busy and distract ourselves when boredom starts to come on. My BPD finance left me VERY suddenly, moved out while I was away, blocked me from phone contact, email contact, unfriended me on FB and other social media, sucessfully compelled her family and friends to do the same and even had a lawyer friend threaten me with a restraining order for calling her from a hotel phone twice! Every single time you pick me back up when I'm shattered into pieces on the floor. My ex has BDP. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. The right kind of help. My wife got me a book back in 2004 called Walking On Egg Shells that has helped me so very much. Just try.Won't work. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. I'll buy them groceries. Sometimes I feel understanding. I'm constantly dropping things I'm doing or putting myself in awkward situations so I can be there. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. The Socialist Republic of Romania (Romanian: Republica Socialist Romnia, RSR) was a Marxist-Leninist one-party socialist state that existed officially in Romania from 1947 to 1989. Your letter touches on a subject that my husband and I are taking to my therapist just this week. Then she tells me she found an apartment and began moving every possible evidence that she ever lived here out of our home. I quit writing. i was wondering if you could answer something for me though. Perhaps you have tried so many things to ease the pain, but nothing has worked. I'd be honored if you shared it with your DBT Group and therapist (and your family!). Also, I was a VERY positive person just a few years agoI was even called a Pollyanna! Until I got out of all the physc stuff , non groups and started to directly talk or better said listen to those that suffer from BPD I really had no idea. A lover, a friend, a parent or sibling, and a coworker all have the privilege of having a frame of reference to place the borderline in. The mind is very complex. That said, it makes sense that people occasionally need to set boundaries with us. 4. I handle things differently thru all the therapy and med changesI still wish it to go away..since now have Bipolar tendencies and PTSD isn't this all pretty much the same stuff and the rollercoaster is ongoing? Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. NAMI I can't believe they still employ me (which reminds me I'm am Thee master of self-sabatoge)Every day I am paranoid, anxious, overwhelmed. Borderline personality disorder (BPD), also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD), is a serious mental health condition that prevents someone from being able to control. For more information, visit our Terms of Service & Privacy Policy page. Furthermore, symptoms of BPD often manifest themselves as true emotional (and often times physical) abuse toward the children of those who suffer from the disorder. But at least we're acknowlodging it and it's *&^$%&$& hard! But I fear that she will never forgive me if I maintain I didn't do anything wrong. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. That is certainly not easy. Thank you once again. Since these providers may collect personal data like your IP address we allow you to block them here. But please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior, we also desperately hope that you will not leave us or abandon us in our time of despair and desperation. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. BPD, Trauma, and WHY the f*#k did I just say that?! I have read through a lot of your blog and so much of it sounds like me. I am praying for you, too. But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. After the latest episode she tells me that I have to earn back her trust. These cookies collect information that is used either in aggregate form to help us understand how our website is being used or how effective our marketing campaigns are, or to help us customize our website and application for you in order to enhance your experience. 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